When thoughts become things..

Most often than not, we don’t end up doing things we want to do operating from a place of fear? Moving out of our comfort zone becomes challenging because we are sometimes crippled by fear. But what happens if take that chance? We don’t know what we are losing out on the other side of this fear? What if it works out? - That move, that relationship, that life event, that business plan? - What if it all just falls into place. Why do we have to catastrophize the thought of doing something or experiencing something we have never experienced before. ? Instead enjoy the experience. What happens if we fail? Nothing really. We just learn, failure being a great teacher. Look back and think of the times you have failed and see how much you've learned. In order for us to be successful, it is important we experience failure. How would we otherwise know what success looks like? Failure is not a bad thing at all. Even though it has such a negative connotation to it. Every failure we come across ...

  Today I want to talk about self-compassion. Most often than not we have a lot of compassion for others, but probably when it comes to us, we forget about compassion. Think about a time when you felt compassion for someone. Could be a family member or a friend or even a person on the street? Now pause and think about what are some of the things you do or say out of compassion. Very naturally, some of us would offer a hug or just say something meaningful to make the other person feel better. But when it comes to us, we are quite judgmental. We are harsh critics of ourselves. Self-compassion may just mean just being kind to ourselves. Quietening that critical voice within that keeps nagging us, mostly telling us that we are either no good enough or we are falling short of something somewhere. Pay attention to this self-talk. Our brain is wired in a way that the more we feed it with critical talk, it accepts the feed. The only way to rewire it or apply neuroplasticity is to change th...

  Holding a space is a very beautiful concept and some of us may be familiar with the concept in a very different form. Often when we share intimate relationships with our families, friends, or a romantic partner, we have a tendency to judge the person and may not fully be listening to what the other person is saying. How many times do we find ourselves responding to someone in our head, while the person is talking to us? Holding a space would mean not trivializing something that means a lot to a person who is telling you about how they feel. In their head, it is big, maybe not in yours. Respect that. Be present for the person. Be there. The most important part of holding a space for someone or yourself is allowing the person to feel what they want to feel, without giving your own opinions or suggestions. So for example a child comes to you crying and is upset, you try not to say statements like "you are brave" or distract the child by bringing up some form of instant gratifi...

I have touched on this topic in many ways before. As I sit with a cup of coffee, I wonder, how much time do we as humans spend worrying. Worrying about the future? Worrying about our children? Worrying about our parents? Worrying about money? Worrying about our jobs? The list is endless. We are on a spiral of thoughts. So let's take a step back? When we are in this spiral of worry, which is most often than not a waste of time? Worry can become an addiction and in turn, lead to anxiety. It also saps out a lot of energy out of us. There are many things that are completely out of our control and there comes a point when we need to come to the realization that we are not in control of circumstances. But what we are in control of is our thoughts. Is this worry actually giving us a solution? The last thought that we have before we go to bed, is the first thought that comes up in the morning. So it is important the last 30 minutes before we go to bed are completely relaxed for good qualit...