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Holding a space

 Holding a space is a very beautiful concept and some of us may be familiar with the concept in a very different form.

Often when we share intimate relationships with our families, friends, or a romantic partner, we have a tendency to judge the person and may not fully be listening to what the other person is saying. How many times do we find ourselves responding to someone in our head, while the person is talking to us?
Holding a space would mean not trivializing something that means a lot to a person who is telling you about how they feel. In their head, it is big, maybe not in yours. Respect that.
Be present for the person. Be there.


The most important part of holding a space for someone or yourself is allowing the person to feel what they want to feel, without giving your own opinions or suggestions.
So for example a child comes to you crying and is upset, you try not to say statements like "you are brave" or distract the child by bringing up some form of instant gratification. All you need to do is listen and acknowledge the feelings of the other person.
This space has to be held without feelings of shame or guilt. A safe space.
When you hold a space for a person, it also means that the person trusts you. Allow the person to trust their own intuition and wisdom, even if it’s a child.
Holding space for someone else actually starts with holding space for yourself without any judgments and allowing yourself to feel.
Hold that space unconditionally for yourself and for others. Love and light.

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