The other side of fear

Most often than not, we don’t end up doing things we want to do operating from a place of fear? Moving out of our comfort zone becomes challenging because we are sometimes crippled by fear. But what happens if take that chance? We don’t know what we are losing out on the other side of this fear? What if it works out? - That move, that relationship, that life event, that business plan? - What if it all just falls into place.

Why do we have to catastrophize the thought of doing something or experiencing something we have never experienced before. ? Instead enjoy the experience.

What happens if we fail? Nothing really. We just learn, failure being a great teacher. Look back and think of the times you have failed and see how much you've learned. In order for us to be successful, it is important we experience failure. How would we otherwise know what success looks like?

Failure is not a bad thing at all. Even though it has such a negative connotation to it. Every failure we come across is a stepping stone. We just get smarter and wiser.

The amount of time we spend obsessing about our failure could be well used to take actions towards things that scare us. Make fear your friend instead.

Some of our fears are quite innate and they can be passed on through generations.

Originally, this emotion was meant to protect us and this comes from our early human ancestors. It is certainly a deeply wired response to stimuli and is a response to the amygdala. But then there a space between the response and the stimuli. Not every decision we are making is a potential threat that we need to protect ourselves from. Sometimes they can be good decisions.

It is important that we catch the fear and look at a rational response. Why is this scary? And what is the worst that can happen? And for all we probably there is only the best-case scenario.

Everything we probably want is on the other side of fear .

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