When thoughts become things..

  When 2020 began, we rang in the new year in Hyderabad . We had a real fun night and we didn’t have a curfew or weren't wearing a mask. On the 1st,  we went out for a lovely lunch and I don’t think we were predicting the year ahead. We were planning . The last time I had actually met my family for a great gettogether was Jan 2020. And then I don’t have a memory of how this year has been . Feb went by and then came March. I remember I was  in office when the first covid-19 case was detected in Hyderabad and then it was suddenly Work From Home. I did love the WFH situation . I first started to notice my house and little things around. I know that this phase was a stop and it got us to pay attention to the little things around us .  Then came the video calls with family and friends.  Everyone was on houseparty, until we came across the data breach. We bonded as people in general. The pandemic taught us things every single day . From cooking to hacks! Some of us sp...

  Have you ever experienced unconditional acceptance? Can we relate to people with zero judgments? While it may be impossible to find such an equation, it is necessary to have those people in your life who do not judge you. But before that do it is important to assess if you make judgements about yourself. Unconditional acceptance is need from you for yourself before you expect others to accept you. How do we learn to love when we cannot unconditionally accept? Love is a transient emotion—every changing and highly overrated. But it is also what makes the world go round. Take, for example, a relationship between a parent and child; why would we want a child to behave a certain way that doesn’t fit our scheme of parenting or just social conditioning. The same would apply to an equation between friends, siblings, and so on. This unconditional acceptance doesn’t mean that one has to ignore the negative traits of a person like abuse, narcissism, or any other harmful patterns. If there i...

  Often times we live in a narrative we have either been fed or our feeding ourselves. Our thoughts are not always true and it is important that we nip them in the bud. The story or the narrative we tell ourselves is how we go about our relationships, careers, and social life. This doesn’t apply to ourselves, it is also the story that we tell ourselves about others. We choose to believe what our mind tells us to. We get fixated on people and put them into boxes because that’s the story we have built around them. When we come into this world our life is almost like a blank canvas. Maybe not really blank, because we inherit traits, behaviors, or even genes. But outside of that our life experiences start making their way through this canvas. Now our canvas is painted with different colors some bright and some not so bright. We get to choose the picture we are painting every single day. Those are the stories we tell ourselves. We may want to do so many things, almost like a wish list, ...

A people pleaser maybe some one who just cannot say no, at the cost of making other people happy. It could mean that you want to avoid conflict. Most often than not people pleasing is simply exhausting. Where does people pleasing come from? Sometimes from the need to be accepted . Fear of rejection is a driver that makes most of us become people pleasers. A constant sense to indicate that you may be hurting the other person by saying no. People pleasing would mean constantly allowing people to cross your boundaries. It is therefore important to reflect and understand what your boundaries are . While it is seen as a nice trait in people at a superficial level , it can be equally damaging. You may find people taking you for granted. You may find yourself physically or emotionally drained. You may find yourself ending up in an abusive situation. Being nice to people, may not always be a good at the cost of your peace and the rate of emotional depletion. Learning to say No doesn’t come int...

Over a period of time, we traverse through life and develop a set of beliefs about ourselves. These beliefs are a culmination of things we've heard from our primary caregivers - grandparents, parents, siblings, etc. Growing up we develop a belief system that comes from interacting with our classmates at school and things we have been told by our teachers. These limiting beliefs paralyze our way of thinking and are definitely obstacles in These are deeply rooted in our subconscious and our brain mostly confirms these beliefs to form a thinking pattern. These beliefs mainly come from our childhood and transform into a series of experiences as adults. Our beliefs are formed from our experiences and these could be positive or negative. We start to expect certain things, based on our belief systems, and the brain influences the outcomes. For eg. If a teacher said you weren't good enough at math, that may have formed a part of your belief system. This will somewhere manifest in some ...