Unconditional acceptance ?

Have you ever experienced unconditional acceptance?

Can we relate to people with zero judgments? While it may be impossible to find such an equation, it is necessary to have those people in your life who do not judge you.

But before that do it is important to assess if you make judgements about yourself.

Unconditional acceptance is need from you for yourself before you expect others to accept you.

How do we learn to love when we cannot unconditionally accept?

Love is a transient emotion—every changing and highly overrated.

But it is also what makes the world go round.

Take, for example, a relationship between a parent and child; why would we want a child to behave a certain way that doesn’t fit our scheme of parenting or just social conditioning.

The same would apply to an equation between friends, siblings, and so on.

This unconditional acceptance doesn’t mean that one has to ignore the negative traits of a person like abuse, narcissism, or any other harmful patterns.

If there is a lack of unconditional acceptance, there may be a situation where you are always leading a dual life.

It is about peeling off the layers and bringing authenticity to a relationship.

If one needs or wants a meaningful space that is !

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