Does this serve you ?

Do you find yourself feeling helpless ? Is the world against you and you are fighting a constant battle.? Do you feel that others are responsible for situations that have led to you to a point in life ? Do you compare yourself to others and feel disappointed about life ?

Chances are that you may gone through a traumatic experience or a series of experiences and perhaps need healing or help to fight these inner demons .

The possibility of being in the victim mindset may blur the brigther side and seeing things for as they are . Are you taking responsibility or accountability for your actions or do you find the constant need to blame a partner, a family member, a parent or a sibling perhaps. ?

The victim mindset as it is called is not only draining for the person but a form of exhaustion for everyone around . To a point everyone feels helpless .

If you had to take a step back and probably look at specific situations with a broader lens or be aware of the growth mindset, it could potentially change the outcome of he situation.

It is upto us to change ourselves from victim to victor . Few pointers of making some shifts

• Practice gratitude each day and observe how this practice shifts your perspective.

• Take responsibility and seek help from a therapist or counselor .

• Change the narrative and story you are telling yourself .

• Acknowlege your feelings , and move on from the need of having others validate your feelings .

Love and Light

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