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#sharetheload

I was watching some news shows on women's day today and I came across #sharetheload campaign.
It is obviously something that is hard to drill down a man's head that they should be sharing household chores. Most Indian men to my knowledge wouldn't. Some very woke men are pro sharing chores like washing the dishes, folding a laundry etc .
The social conditioning on gender based roles is so deep rooted in our system is that it is almost equivalent to a generational curse. This is something that men are pre-conditioned with . A lot of this can be attributed to the upbringing and the social construct . I have come across the most modern men, who think it's not for them to do chores. 
Many women are lucky if they have partners who do share the load.
In a traditional set up may be it was because "the man" was said to be the breadwinner and he would come back after a hard days work . But the fact that being a homemaker is a full time job, is often neglected. Roles have not reversed yet , but when women can manage a career, kids etc , it is imperative that men should be more supportive. Yes, this is changing, but not to an extent we would have hoped.
This whole process of managing a home/kids/school/cooking etc can take a toll on an individual's physical and mental health .
Will this change in the near future?
Will the attitude of men change as of today change ? To be very realistic - not really. It can if conversations are open or if the opposite person is flexible. Maybe, communication is the key.

But what can certainly change is how we bring up our children .How we bring up our boys to be more empathetic and sensitive and potentially share the load .

Another takeaway is , making self care a priority today and everyday!

Happy Women's day!

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