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Who am I ?

Everyday, we read numerous posts of so many different people in situations, that bring unhappiness and many of these are circumstantial.

At a high level, it does appear that life is challenging and stressful at many levels. There are so many stressors - job, kids, in laws etc .

In most situation's it is imperative that one sees a therapist to seek guidance . 
One of the most important parts of when we are dealing with issues - Where do we stand in this journey? 
In a lot of ways the key part of solving this problem of issues around us - is how well do we know ourselves ?
How much self acceptance do we give ourselves - appearance or situations . Do we acknowledge or accept the situation as it is ?
The journey starts with oneself . Before we know about other's around us . And the fact remains we will never be able to fully know someone, even in a life time . Parents,partners, siblings, children are human beings and they are bound to make shifts , changes in their behaviour .
But how good or ideal is our relationship with ourselves?
Do we know what our triggers are ? Do we know where they come from ?
Do we give ourselves time during the day - even if its five minutes to just enjoy our own company doing something we love?
Do we understand our anxieties and fears?
Do we know the stories of the narratives we make out of certain situations?
Do we know our boundaries? And do we know how go draw boundaries around people who hurt us or harm ?
Do we know what it is to feel safe with ourselves ?
Do we know how to love ourselves unconditionally without judgements ? 
Do we see ourselves as victims constantly?

These are just examples of questions to reflect on . It is when our relationship with the self is evolving, can we manage the dynamics and complexities around us, before reaching a state of overwhelm.

So get to know yourself! 

Love and light ❤️

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