When thoughts become things..

Throughout our lives we are expected to do things for each other, even it is something we wouldn't like to do. Pressing the no button becomes difficult, almost impossible. As kids - our relationship with our parents is one of co-dependency unless circumstances decide otherwise. Our parents are equally dependent and thus starts the cycle of expectations and living up to people's expectations. We grow up do to these things for our friends, partners, children, in-laws, and so on. Why - because this is the way it is supposed to be? Almost like a generational curse. We end up becoming a similar kind of parent, not letting children get out of our clasp. Whether we like it or not, we are already in the trap. This whole process can be very exhausting for us and our relationships. In the scheme of things, we forget about ourselves, our needs, our dreams. It is almost like quicksand that cannot come out of it. Some of us learn the hard way and able to make a clear distinction of putting ...

So sometimes when I am peeling an onion , some of the petals aren't great . So I happen to keep the good one's , sometimes I would like to throw the entire onion if its bad . But today I want to talk about the layers. We don’t really count how many layers each onion has . I don’t do it :). But I am sure someone, somewhere has . Just like us we have an outer layer and then multiple layers of emotions, feelings and behaviors. And each of those layers have their complexities. Sometimes we are not even aware of the layers. But for those of us who are, have been peeling them one by one . Each of our outer emotions for eg. anger also has multiple layers of emotions like guilt or shame . Now if I had an onion that had bad layers I would just throw off bad petals and probably keep the good ones. We probably don’t do that enough with ourselves enough. It is important to notice the layers . Feel our emotions especially the one's that do not serve us . And just throw them ...

  This is an idea that is not new to us. Starting from the time we wake up , we are in a constant consumption mode . From social media , mindless scrolling to the continuous bombarding of news content . At some point we do not have a filter that makes us consciously stop or limit our screen time. What if we did not have access to any media for a day or maybe longer.? There have been experiments conducted with a sample size of individuals without internet access . These individuals were tracked for a long period of time since 1995 and it turned out that there was a great impact on their overall wellbeing. The more we engross ourselves with constantly keeping ourselves updated , the more our anxiety and stress levels tend to increase. This constant download of information ,whether needed or not drains our mental energy. Without any conscious realization we become exhausted. So let's back up for a bit ? What are we consuming and it is really necessary.? Just like our body needs a bala...