There is no better time than NOW.

We were doing a team fun question . If you had a time machine where would you go .?

At first it sounded like a very light question . My instant answer was I would like to be in the NOW. I was surprised that it was something came from me . I almost sounded like I was an Eckhart Tolle reader. And I haven't even read that book.

And then I had to explain why NOW. As we went into the discussion - everyone else in the group had very interesting responses. And it was a fascinating discussion at that.

Someone said back in the past to stay with people who they had lost .

Someone said that to 1970's to probably make good investments.

Someone else said in the era of history .

We all had own versions of that time machine.

For me what stood out was, I wasn’t thinking of going back or into the future.

Over a period of time, I realized that I have adapted to the idea of the moment.

I have also slowly adapted to the idea of not looking back and forward. As people we tend to hold on to memories, events good and bad from the past. The past we hold on to and the past that makes us who we are. We seldom take notice that we were not the same person we were 5 years ago . We are constantly evolving. The more we focus on the present, the farther we go.

By probably wanting to relive and mull over our regrets we lose sight of time from moment to moment . We lose touch with what is happening now.

The same goes with the future. Our anxiety of our future also derails our growth in the present moment. Of course we can reminisce the beauty of past events but mindfully the good ones, not forgetting that all events and situations have made us we are today . Our past just needs acknowledgement and not clinging on .

Key ideas:

Letting go is one of the most difficult things. It is not as simple but it is completely doable.
Clinging on to a series of experiences from the past is not worth our time.
Why be caught in a time and place that has happened or is going to happen? Simply focus on the now .
The more we focus on what we cannot change , the more magnified it becomes.

It is true that the NOW is extremely powerful.

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