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Just a slap ?

This post comes after me having recently watched the movie "Thappad". The slap in the movie is quite metaphorical to the situation of the protagonist. While a lot of people think that it wasn't a big deal , she is still shaken by repercussions of that one slap . While I was watching the film which covers the serious issue of domestic violence , I was wondering how many times we face this slap and try to make relationships or marriages work .While the film is largely women centric , it also made me think about the degrees of emotional abuse men are often subject to and live with it . While physical abuse is visible , emotional abuse is not . And this is the case with both the sexes .
While this may be a larger issue for women with both these aspects , there may be a possibility that we seldom address the mens side of relationship trauma.
It is true that we live in patriarchal society and men have always had the upper hand .But in their quest to be conditioned as not showing vulnerability , they fail to acknowledge the emotional upheaval they may be going through.
Women are in a better place to express and share their incidents. 
It is a double edged sword . Sometimes we may need to look inward and count our flaws too. Sometimes it is by design and upbringing that men behave a certain way . Does a man or a woman have to put up with any of the discomfort . 
The choice of letting go or staying . The question that it was once or a pattern ?
The question of putting a relationship at stake or walking out ? That choice needs a lot of courage . That choice has consequences. That choice has repercussions. That choice may be a sacrifice but at what cost ?.How many chances ?  But that choice is still ours. 

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