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Women without men ..

It was International Men's day a few days ago. I didn't see a lot of hype like we do for women's day. We didn't get a cake for our male colleagues at work. I barely sent a text to two or three odd men, which included two from my immediate family.
This has been on my mind for a while, and probably it's time I wrote about it.
How much do we appreciate our men? How often do we take them for granted?  How sensitive are we to their emotions, and how much do we know about their emotions in a normal setting? Isn't it most often about us? I am just flipping a coin here. Our period - PMS - pre and post, mood swings, feeling low days etc. Sometimes I wonder, as a friend /partner /colleague/lover boy/husband - whatever role they play in our lives, do we appreciate them enough? 

Do we take time to pick up on their mental exhaustion or them working tirelessly to meet ends? Them trying to make holidays happen? Chip in for school fees, run errands etc.?  We are moving away from traditional gender roles today, but let's face it, we do have expectations from the men we know. We still expect them to pick us up, drop us, call us, and do men things.
And some of them, maybe even a few, silently do what they have been doing.
Sometimes they could be real jerks, but sometimes there are men in our lives who deserve to be appreciated. And sometimes, it may not just be the physical proximity they need and the emotional anchor to all the men who are always in the background. Take time to appreciate them every single day in whatever little way. Don't go overboard, lest they take you for granted ;).
Sometimes a little thank you note would work. A post it on the fridge or a little something.
So go for it! Give them the attention they need and deserve. Empathise!

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