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Sitting with your emotions ?

 

In an instance, you find yourself deeply consumed by this one emotion could be anger, fear, sadness, etc.  And before you know it you let the emotion consume you. You spend hours dwelling in that uncomfortable space. Not knowing how to process what you are feeling. You talk to a couple of people or maybe even an expert if it is too extreme and you notice you are already a caged in that state of mind. Talking to other people makes you feel better but you still cannot completely let go.

Now take a step back. The only thing between you and that state of being maybe you. Not that you switch the button whenever you feel like. But my favorite learning has been "Sit with the emotion", in other words, do not fight it. Feel it, let it pass and it will pass. But this is an individual process, knowing that your feelings are valid. Would you fight with a positive emotion like happiness, no right? You are most likely going to fight with a negative emotion because it makes you uncomfortable. Remind yourself it is only natural to feel the way you are feeling. And it is important to let that emotion pass and allow it not to consume you. 





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