When thoughts become things..

How difficult is it to say NO.?. Why do some of us find it difficult to push the NO button ? You have been assigned a task ,you know the deliverable is not easy to accomplish but you still went ahead and said Yes. Did it make you in uncomfortable ? Yes it did, atleast a little. You have been invited to get together , you don't seem to like the host but you still go . Countless examples of how we have been conditioned to be conformists anyone who doesn't comply with norms becomes an outlier . We face these situations everyday and probably have never been made aware of the fact that sometimes we need to draw our own visible lines . We stick to people who make us uncomfortable and we feel horrible about but there are complex emotions attached . At the end of the day these weigh us down and ultimately manifest into anger, resentment frustration. It is indeed extremely difficult to draw your boundaries. But it is a process. Being vocal and telling someone that they are being a certa...

This post comes after me having recently watched the movie "Thappad". The slap in the movie is quite metaphorical to the situation of the protagonist. While a lot of people think that it wasn't a big deal , she is still shaken by repercussions of that one slap . While I was watching the film which covers the serious issue of domestic violence , I was wondering how many times we face this slap and try to make relationships or marriages work .While the film is largely women centric , it also made me think about the degrees of emotional abuse men are often subject to and live with it . While physical abuse is visible , emotional abuse is not . And this is the case with both the sexes . While this may be a larger issue for women with both these aspects , there may be a possibility that we seldom address the mens side of relationship trauma. It is true that we live in patriarchal society and men have always had the upper hand .But in their quest to be conditioned as not showin...