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Depression and Anxiety - what about it ?





I have been meaning to touch upon this topic for a while now . Is there a moment of your day that you end up feeling anxious or depressed over things ? In the past few weeks I have gone through a lot of content around this topic and thought I should share some insights . This is not a step by step formula or we are not even getting into solutioning a problem. I am sure there are many experts in this group and I am not qualified to talk about this topic. But I believe it is important for us to understand and debunk certain pre- conceived notions .

In my own experience I have come across  people around us that  take depression very lightly and do not really understand that the person dealing with depression or anxiety needs help. Friends and family tend to brush it off by saying things - oh its a phase or its in your head or you are way to negative.
or may be get a dog/ go for a drink / take a holiday .

What people at large,  fail to understand is that each of us have had a unique set of experiences and each of us is equipped with varying degrees of coping mechanisms.

The triggers for these uncomfortable emotions are different and there is a wide range of reasons.
Some of us may attribute our situation to an incident , but that incident may just be a trigger. The underlying cause however may be unresolved trauma issues .
Again the degree of trauma may vary with each individual.
For eg . if someone has lost a parent, it may have affected the whole family but each person is built differently to heal from the trauma .Same is with life situations such as a break up or a divorce or abuse and such .

There may be several other reasons like hormonal imbalance which has a lot to do with the chemical make up .

The first probable step is to acknowledge that this is happening to you before it becomes very overwhelming. 
Once you have an acceptance of you being in that situation, get help .Consult a therapist . The therapist will work through the issue and identify if it is based on a psychological aspect or should you be referred further to a psychiatrist . Now again this is a slippery slope . You may be prescribed meds and probably they are needed , but you may want to look for alternative therapies such as meditation or yoga which work well too .
Sometimes its simply talking to some one without the fear of judgement. Not everyone can afford therapy and I am not sure if we have free consultations that come from the goodness of some ones heart. 

The responsibility of dealing with the situation lies within you,with a well cushioned support system of friends and family or simply your circle of trust.
One of the most important things to do when you are battling depression or anxiety is to focus on your fitness . Exercise helps release endorphins and happy hormones. Eat healthy - certain foods contribute majorly to your well being .
Yes sometimes you may not want to get out of bed , but you have to push yourself . Baby steps !
Understand that you are NOT alone. There is going to be someone who understands you , even if that means its just your therapist.

In such situations we tend to play the blame game with our partners / family or close connects . You must remember that neither you nor they are fully responsible. Always remember it is NOT your fault for feeling the way you feel. Something may have brought you to this point .

Healing is a long process for some. Forgiveness forms a major part of this process. You have come to a point where you have to consciously forgive people who have caused you pain and hurt. Sometimes the process makes you strong enough to confront them.

Letting go is easier said than done . But the good thing is that - it is not impossible . Time . It takes time. Trust the process. 

With this I hope that anyone who is going through this feels the empathy of someone in their surrounding and feels understood . Much love. 
Sending you a golden bubble of light.

We cannot choose where we come from , but we can choose where we go from here . The choice is always ours .

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